Trusting You've 'Got This'
Trust is a vital part of life – we need to trust ourselves,our loved ones, our community and – to some extent– that the universe has our back. Here’s how to build trust, according to an expert.
Trust plays a key role in healthy relationships, says psychotherapist, social worker and fertility counsellor Judith Krause. Trying to have a baby can be a stressful time, but there are a couple of things that can help when it comes to trust and communicating – whether it’s with your partner, family, friends or medical team – in a way that builds it.
• Being clear is kind, being unclear is unkind. Communicate clearly with those around you – ask for support when you need it whether it’s at home, at work or in your relationships.
• Use ‘I’ statements. “As soon as we use the word ‘you’, people put up their defence mechanism,” Krause explains. “They’re no longer listening to what the other person has to say, they’re starting to formulate words in their mind that they’re going to say back. Using ‘I’ statements can be helpful in building trust and feeling safe.”
• Listen. Trust is about feeling seen and heard, and that means listening in return. “That’s why I think we’ve got two ears and one mouth – so that we can listen twice as much as we speak,” Krause suggests.
• Trust that you are enough. “Believe that you’re enough, that you’re worthy of love and belonging, and that you have the capacity to be vulnerable and just be you. Trust is a feeling - it needs to be earned, in small moments, many times over.” And that goes for building trust in yourself, too!
• Trust yourself above others. “We can’t ask others to give us something we don’t believe we are worthy of receiving, and we can’t give to others what we don’t have ourselves.”
In other words, no matter what your goal is for 2021 – you’ve got this. And we’ve got you!